Hope
Somebody supporting another with cocaine addiction
Loving someone with a cocaine addiction feels like trying to hold onto smoke with bare hands. I have given patience, understanding, late-night conversations, second chances, support, hope, and pieces of myself I didn’t even know I could sacrifice. I keep showing up because I love them deeply, because I know addiction is an illness and not just a choice.
But some days it feels like I’m fighting with windmills swinging at something I can never actually reach, never actually defeat. Every promise feels fragile. Every good day comes with the fear of the next crash. I want to save him , but I’m learning how painful it is to realize that love alone cannot rescue someone who isn’t ready to fully fight for themselves.
And still… I stay compassionate. I stay supportive. I keep hoping the person I love finds their way back to themselves. But I’d be lying if I said this journey hasn’t exhausted me too.
Loving an addict means carrying both love and grief at the same time
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Somebody supporting another with alcohol addiction
Beautifully put! Supporting a loved one with an addiction really does feel like an emotional rollercoaster with no end in sight.
It sounds like you’re doing a fantastic job, and I just wanted to say things can get better. It happened to me with my mum. It just took many years and several false starts (or stops, I suppose!).
So sorry you’re having to bear this burden. 😔
It sounds like you’re doing a fantastic job, and I just wanted to say things can get better. It happened to me with my mum. It just took many years and several false starts (or stops, I suppose!).
So sorry you’re having to bear this burden. 😔
Somebody supporting another with cocaine addiction
People see the addiction, but they don’t always see what it does to the people standing beside the constant worry, the helplessness, the hope that keeps getting broken and rebuilt over and over again. It’s exhausting in a way that’s hard to explain unless you’ve lived it.Hearing that you went through this with your mum, and that things eventually got better despite all the false starts, genuinely means more to me than I can say. Sometimes it feels impossible to imagine an ending that isn’t heartbreaking, so your message gave me a little bit of hope when I really needed it.I’m so glad your mum found her way through eventually. And thank you for being kind enough to reach out to a stranger carrying the same weight. 😔
Somebody supporting another with cannabis, cocaine, prescription opiods, prescription stimulants, and over the counter medicines addictions
I second all your sentiments!
I have turned down job promotions and opportunities to go self-employed for the fear of my daughter needing me.
She is 34 and living back with us which is a nightmare! We are currently working with the sms team on a detox program and hopefully a stay in rehab.
I feel ready to go into rehab myself! But finding someone hope by writing.
I have turned down job promotions and opportunities to go self-employed for the fear of my daughter needing me.
She is 34 and living back with us which is a nightmare! We are currently working with the sms team on a detox program and hopefully a stay in rehab.
I feel ready to go into rehab myself! But finding someone hope by writing.
Somebody supporting another with alcohol addiction
I have walked every step in your shoes. Where does it end !!
I try and remember Al-anon’s saying
We did not cause it, we can’t control it , and can’t cure it .
After many years of an adult alcoholic son with mental health think I have to step away as the constant fight or flight mode is destroying me and my health .
Not an easy thing to do but at this time I think it’s me or him !! My Thoughts are with you 💕
I try and remember Al-anon’s saying
We did not cause it, we can’t control it , and can’t cure it .
After many years of an adult alcoholic son with mental health think I have to step away as the constant fight or flight mode is destroying me and my health .
Not an easy thing to do but at this time I think it’s me or him !! My Thoughts are with you 💕