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Alcohol and cannabis are the two substances the world hands people without warning, sold in shops and joked about at family dinners. So when someone you love is using both heavily every day, the people around you are slow to see what you’re seeing, and the behaviour isn’t dramatic enough to alarm anyone outside the house. There are no overdoses, no police calls, just a person who is rarely fully present.
The combination has a way of laundering itself. “I barely drink, I’m stoned.” “I barely smoke, I’m drinking.” Each substance is the small one in any conversation about the other, and there’s no rock bottom because nothing breaks. Sleep stops being restorative, mood becomes flatter, and you get anxiety in the morning and irritability in the evening. You may have tried to raise it and been told it’s just how they unwind. That doesn’t mean you’ve stopped noticing.
The posts below are from people whose loved one drinks and smokes daily. Some are partners. Some are parents of adult children still living at home. Some are people who used to be casual users themselves, watching the same pattern in someone they love and recognising it from the inside.
This is a place to write honestly about something most people don’t think is serious.
My AD is an alcoholic 39 she has been for about 15 years now - I’ve paid for rehab here and in Thailand but relapsed over and over. She is on benefits and I pay the mortgage on her flat and for private therapy. I have power of attorney and…
My son is 22 today and instead of looking forward to celebrating with him I’m anxious, sad and feel helpless. We have made plans today that he initially suggested and confirmed he wanted to do several times. With the long weekend off work…
Hey I’m not really sure why I’m writing this as I know it’s impossible for anyone to have the answers . But we have a big family holiday booked in July (first time of going abroad for 15years we are going to Majorca )I’m terrified of…
Hey , Just needing a vent ,thought son was doing better and getting all the jelp and having all the support in Place . But I guess love and support isn’t enough and the love of this horrible stuff is more . I fear it will Never end and all…
Hey , Last week my son was caught stealing money to buy weed ….we confronted him and there was lots of tears from both sides ,he agreed he needed help and we are wheels in motion . He has been chatting to us and saying that he has cut down…
Hey, I don’t know where or how to start really. My son is 23 and addicted to weed for around 5/6 years ….we had a good year of what we thought was under control and things seem to get better (not great but bearable ) he had cut down and…
Sending strength to everyone facing a difficult and emotional day today. We clearly aren’t alone experiencing the pain of watching a loved one struggle and have a negative impact on Christmas for those around them. I’m preparing to face…
Hi, new to this app and hoping to find some support and advice from parents in the same situation as I am. My daughter is 17 and struggled with bullying, leading to drug use, throughout high school. She drinks and smokes weed every day and…
I feel so alone my son is addicted to drugs and alcohol I'm doing my best to help him but feel like it's not doing any good he goes missing alot and now he's stealing which I have just found out .the stress and concerns I have are unreal…
Hello I am new to the group and struggling with my son, he is drinking and smoking weed to "help him feel better" we have just moved in with my partner and his kids, I have moved to a different district, I have been with my partner now for…
My son is nearly 18 and is and a cannabis smoker that has turned into drink. He has ADHD/autism/suicidal thoughts etc. I am his appointee for his PIP payment and I then in turn give him money. The problem I have is that I know what he is…
My 21 year old son is drinking heavy. He lives with his Dad and Stepmum. They are away this weekend, he hasn’t answered my calls or texts. They monitor his coming and goings with the ring doorbell so I know he has been out today. We are…