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For most families, cocaine isn’t the first thing you suspect, it’s the explanation you arrive at last. It hides the longest because the person using it works hard to keep it hidden, and it tends to coexist with a functioning life - the job, the mortgage, the school pickup, a social media feed that looks fine.
If you’re the partner, parent or sibling, you’ve probably had to play detective in your own home, squaring cash withdrawals that won’t add up, disappearing weekends and the swearing-on-the-children’s-lives denial with the evidence already in your hand. People who would believe you about heroin will tell you cocaine isn’t really addictive, the doctor says come back when he wants help, and friends say everyone has a line at a wedding. The people closest to it know better.
The posts below come from people supporting a loved one whose cocaine use has stopped being occasional. Some are partners working out whether to stay. Some are parents who have stopped clearing the debts. Some are siblings who haven’t been told the truth yet, and are deciding whether to ask. The stories are honest and they don’t all end the same way.
Hi , I am interested in knowing what boundaries others have put in place that work. Unfortunately both my adult children 24 and 22 abuse alcohol and drugs, one working one not . Currently we don’t feel as though we have a life , we don’t…
Loving someone with a cocaine addiction feels like trying to hold onto smoke with bare hands. I have given patience, understanding, late-night conversations, second chances, support, hope, and pieces of myself I didn’t even know I could…
Why did he start taken drugs 💔 I feel like i am so alone, yet I have so many people around me I can’t talk to. My partner has been a cocaine user for a long time and over the last year and half it’s become out of control, the daily worry…
Hi , new member , me n my husband been trying to help our 31yr old son with his crack addiction, it's been almost 2years , I'm really struggling at the moment n don't know what to do anymore, it's got to the point I don't want him in my…
My son has a coke addiction. The constant lies and stealing resulted in my husband throwing him out. He stayed with his nan for a month then she paid the deposit on a room in shared house. He never paid the rent so he begged to come home,…
Hey, wanted to stop by and say hey, I'm new here and many others are - I'm a partner of someone who is addicted to cocaine and it's certainly been an eye opener to say the least. Never did i imagine i would ever find someone so perfect for…
So my AS, has a cocaine addiction , has lost his job and he has debt up to his eyeballs, he keeps getting letters but won’t discuss a way forward , stays away from home so he doesn’t get “lectured” about it . We want to help him but he…
I had to ask my son to leave over 5 years ago he was addicted stimulants he was put in a Hostel, was kicked out of a few, his behaviour on drugs is unpredictable, then ended up sectioned, and was in for 3 years, he had access to his dad's…
Hi all, My 20 year old daughter is an active cocaine user and currently living away from home sofa surfing . Like all on this group I am going through hell and heartbreak. Wondering if anyone else in a similar situation to me and wants to…
I am tired of the constant lies... I am tired to give second chances.... I am tired to find out that my husband is not doing what he promised to me.... I love him, but I am getting to the point that I don't want this for me anymore.... I…
My partner is addicted to Cocaine. The trigger for him to start using it more frequently and get addicted was due to his mother passing away...He wants to stop, and he gave the first step to get help.... But it brokes my heart seeing him…
I currently have a partner who is in active addiction with cocaine. And other drugs also but from the cocaine. We have been together since December and his addiction was bad but when we moved back into our house from his family home his…
Tonight I tried to approach them, to help them on their journey to wanting to do it alone but with support. They were interested, they picked me up from work to talk about it but the conversation drifted to how I knew they were active on…
I love my partner. He loves me. There is so much love between us but there's also the drugs, the lying, the hiding, the paranoia and the arguments. He flutters between acknowledging he has a problem to yelling at me for not accepting who…