IsThereSomebody
Watching someone you care about struggle with alcohol is one of the loneliest experiences a person can have. Not because you’re alone in it, but because alcohol is wallpaper. Everyone drinks, so when you say quietly that something is wrong, the people around you tell you you’re overreacting. You’re not.
If you’re reading this, you’ve probably already covered for them, sat through the morning apology and the evening denial, and found bottles in places people don’t usually keep bottles. None of it has worked the way you hoped, and that isn’t your failure. The medical world can also understate the danger, because heavy daily drinking can stop being safely stoppable, and a doctor’s “cut down” advice can miss someone who needs supervised withdrawal.
The posts below are written by other people going through the same thing: parents of adult children drinking themselves into hospital, partners who don’t know whether to leave or stay, siblings who haven’t seen the person they grew up with in years. They aren’t experts, they’re people in the middle of it, and most posts are short. Some are angry, some are grateful, and all of them are honest.
After many years and promises to stop drinking my son said at the weekend he had stopped, was looking for work and in a better headspace. He ask us for 2k as he would lose his flat 1 September if we did not pay his rent . After discussing…
So tryed have a chat with my partner about his drinking and he gets on the defensive and its always someone else fault? Why cant just hold his hands up and say yep i need help am in the wrong? Why it always someone else fault? How do i get…
Now i say the drunk side because i love my partner more then anything. Been together 6years now, 1little girl and baby on the way. But the drinking side is now getting to point where i dont love or care on that side. I know its illness why…
My husband has been on a binge for 11 days I won't mention how much he drank in lager and vodka but it started with him having one 2 weeks ago today - the day before our holiday and ended up with us coming home earlier from holiday and…
My son detoxed and started a new job 4 weeks ago , a job he loved and told us he was determined to keep and sort his life out, pay off his debt and start saving again etc !! Ever started going to AA. All going really well then started…
I wrote a few months ago saying that my friend was in rehab and I had to respect his boundaries but it was hurtful as we had been so close. He’s about to complete 10 weeks detox programme and will start work next week. We’ve tried to…
Hello, my AH sister is going through a community detox on Monday, she’s had 3 detox’s previously over the years at different rehabs up and down the country but never a community one. The nurse said she must be monitored 24/7 so me and dad…
I’m struggling to cope. My partner has had problems with alcohol for over 30 years. It’s got much worse in the last 4 years since his brother took his own life. My partners drinking has increased and about 2 weeks ago he attempted suicide.…
I don’t know if anyone can help me. My son is 34 and alcoholic. Goes cold turkey for four days went to work came back drank, went to work came home drank. Now it’s the weekend he’s telling me he needs drink. I gave him drink now he wants…
Second attempted suicide from my son . I went to his flat it was in squalor. My husband and I Spent 2 days cleaning it bought him new bedding, cloths and food . He promised he needed help he has mental health and alcohol addiction.Said he…
I can’t find any kind of balance between looking after my alcoholic sister and trying to think about my own life. My head is in such a mess every day. She is very mentally unwell and needs so much support after escaping harrowing DV and…
My partner went out last night drinking..says he stuck to lager and was home after 4 hours. His mood changed the moment he walked in and then he started been verbally aggressive and laughing at me. Till the point he had me in tears, said…
My partner is nearly 4 1/2 months sober the longest he's ever gone was 2 months. He is a binge drinker when he drinks just the 'one bottle of wine' turns to a 4 upto 7 day binge. The longest binge he went on was Dec 2025 which was a 9 day…
I have been trying to leave but I think I am addicted to them, even though I know it’s bad for me. I have tried to split up but somehow I end up where I was. I really want to stay firm, I really just want to work and me and could do with…
My god, this week has been hell! So my partner struggling with drink and mental health crisis. Dealing with it on my own trying keep a roof over our head as we have naighbour problems that police involved with. (Hes not in the wrong btw…
What do you say to your son when he tells you that he has cut his drinking down to 1 bottle of wine and a few gin and tonics per night !!! Does anyone think this is ok ? I certainly don’t . He thinks that is good . I would like to hear…
So i honestly feel my partner need to go rehab now. But what do i do? How i bring it up? Is it free? I havent a clue be i need help with his drinking for my daughter and me and i just found out pregnant again and i dont want put my body in…
Another broken promise . I have had to block my son again drunk and abusive, Did not show up for job interview but its all my fault !! so many promises, no more drinking or lies and he would get help !! Why do I believe him ? Probably…
Hi, so this first time finding this site. So i am with my partner of 4years who struggles with drinking quater bottles of sprits and cheap cans. We have a little girl who never sees it or try make sure she doesnt see it. I am trying help…
My son has just reached a rock bottom in alcoholism. Having been verbally abusive and threatening self harm to his ex girlfriend she reported it to work and he has been fired. He does accept he has to give up alcohol but I am so…
Hey all I don’t even know where to begin. My other half is an alcoholic and after a breakdown 6.5 years ago, it all got worse. He’s always liked drink and would have between 2-5 cans depending on the night. It’s just never sat right with…
Hey folks. I’ve just joined this community. I hope to be helped, and in turn help others in this space. I’m basically a laid back guy in his mid forties. However when my alcohol dependent son was foisted upon me by my very frustrated ex…
What a journey our family have been on with my son, alcohol use. Just don't know where start really, most painful thing is he continually tries to make trouble in the family, dividing us all. We try so hard not to have this happen but not…
Hi everyone, I’m here because I’ve been carrying the emotional weight of addiction in my family for some time, and I’ve reached a point where I can’t do it alone anymore. I need support — not just for my family’s sake, but for my own…
I just had to write and say how amazing this site is. So helpful to so many but sadly there is so many that need it. Some great advice and support for people that are at their wits end with worry and not knowing which way to turn. Keep up…
For those of us who are supporting, or who have supported someone with addiction, it can start to feel like our entire identity gets wrapped around theirs — their needs, their crises, their healing. I’ve been asking myself lately: Where do…
I grew up in an alcoholic household, and although I can’t directly prove it, I think my experiences from that period have shaped my personality as an adult, particularly around emotion: • I struggle to express certain feelings. Stress,…