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For a lot of families and partners, the drinking is what you notice first, and the cocaine comes later, sometimes years later. It’s hidden longer and denied harder, and the two together change the person in ways neither does alone. The mood swings are sharper and the money goes faster. Doctors quietly worry about what the body produces when both are in the system - the heart, the temper, the long descents after the highs.
The combination is also socially sticky. Alcohol summons the cocaine, whether that’s the bar, the party, the office function or the family wedding, and cutting one means cutting the other and often the friend group too. On paper they look fine, the mortgage gets paid and the job gets done, so to anyone outside the home your worry can sound disproportionate.
The posts below are from people whose loved one is using both. Some are partners deciding whether to leave, some are parents who have stopped lending money, some are friends watching from a distance and wondering what they can do. None of these stories are the same. What they have in common is that the person writing is no longer pretending it’s only one thing.
Reading other people’s experiences won’t fix what’s happening in your home. But it can do two things that matter: it can remind you you’re not making this up, and it can show you what other people tried, what worked, what made it worse, what they wish they’d done sooner.
Is anyone else feeling like this? I love watching the World Cup and yesterday morning we watched all together as a family which was lovely and memorable, but now fearful of Saturdays next England match. We have given our son/s option of…
Thought Id share with this group incase others are interested - just discovered (& ordered!) a book about the brains mood boosting chemicals and how to keep those levels topped up naturally. This really resonated for me in respect of my…
Some please help , I am besides myself with constant fear, anxiety waking up every morning crying. I am so scared of losing my 25yr old son to cocaine its making me feel ill. He has seizures every time, he must of had 20 seizures 3 of them…
My first born daughter is an alcoholic she has went from being a beautiful young woman to a person I no longer know,we had 3 years of no contact until one day her ex and kids dad phoned to say she was in icu on life support because she had…
I wanted to share a little hope on this app after reading some of the terrible times others are going through - something I know only too well myself 😢 This is my own personal story - Im not sure why but it feels like writing this helps me…
Hi all I takevit that the reason why we are all here is because we have something in common. Im no different. For over a years I've watched my son spiraling with his alchol use. Over the years I've tried to implement support for him,…
Hi all I’m in desperate need of some advice! My partner is dependent on cocaine and alcohol and it’s only getting worse. We recently found out I’m pregnant and it’s come to a point that I need to make some decisions. He will be a great dad…
Hi - I’m wondering if anyone on here has experience of their loved one receiving an ADHD formal diagnosis and then taking medication for it? My son (23y) was meant to have been referred by his GP to a private practice for formal assessment…
Im interested in hearing from others whose loved ones have been diagnosed with ADHD and have been given any advice about the link with addiction. My son has been referred by the GP for an ADHD and Autism assessment - under the Right to…