At a loss
Somebody supporting another with alcohol and cannabis addictions
Hey,
I don’t know where or how to start really.
My son is 23 and addicted to weed for around 5/6 years ….we had a good year of what we thought was under control and things seem to get better (not great but bearable ) he had cut down and life got a little less stressful and for want of a better word our family was resembling pre weed more and more .
But about three months ago things changed and we noticed him doing it more ….he was no longer caring about where he did it ,if it upset us and when confronted (in a way if reaching help for help) he would say we were over reacting and he had it under control.
I wanted to speak to him but he would shut me down and say stop worrying mum ,Christmas was near so I would let it go but didn’t want to upset the family it was Christmas and I wanted the others to have a good time ….we all went away for new year and I guess brushed over what was happening .
New year we spoke to our son and he agreed to see a addiction therapist ,he also refinished he had a problem as he said he couldn’t be without weed and it was all he thought about.By this time he was doing it 4 times a day,but the real crunch came when (and it breaks my heart to say this ) but he stole money out my husbands wallet to buy weed ….i confronted him and he broke down handed me the weed and and said I need help badly ,I am having the shakes and feeling sick when I do t do it ,I want it all to stop .
I feel numb ,don’t know where to turn we have spoke with frank and they have put us into a support number …but my hands are tied I can help him all I can ,but it has to come from him ….im scared ,unsure that it will happen and today I misplaced my purse (this is awful ) but my first thought was my sin (which made me feel sick )
I know it’s not him and it’s the addiction but that only makes me feel worse …helpless …I can’t make this right or better for him and honestly it’s breaking my heart …I don’t know if this will get better or things will change …if so how long for …the worse thing is if he can’t get weed he gets his hight from drinking as well …. Don’t know what to or how to help react or navigate a full time job ,and other members of the family.
Sorry for such a long post
I don’t know where or how to start really.
My son is 23 and addicted to weed for around 5/6 years ….we had a good year of what we thought was under control and things seem to get better (not great but bearable ) he had cut down and life got a little less stressful and for want of a better word our family was resembling pre weed more and more .
But about three months ago things changed and we noticed him doing it more ….he was no longer caring about where he did it ,if it upset us and when confronted (in a way if reaching help for help) he would say we were over reacting and he had it under control.
I wanted to speak to him but he would shut me down and say stop worrying mum ,Christmas was near so I would let it go but didn’t want to upset the family it was Christmas and I wanted the others to have a good time ….we all went away for new year and I guess brushed over what was happening .
New year we spoke to our son and he agreed to see a addiction therapist ,he also refinished he had a problem as he said he couldn’t be without weed and it was all he thought about.By this time he was doing it 4 times a day,but the real crunch came when (and it breaks my heart to say this ) but he stole money out my husbands wallet to buy weed ….i confronted him and he broke down handed me the weed and and said I need help badly ,I am having the shakes and feeling sick when I do t do it ,I want it all to stop .
I feel numb ,don’t know where to turn we have spoke with frank and they have put us into a support number …but my hands are tied I can help him all I can ,but it has to come from him ….im scared ,unsure that it will happen and today I misplaced my purse (this is awful ) but my first thought was my sin (which made me feel sick )
I know it’s not him and it’s the addiction but that only makes me feel worse …helpless …I can’t make this right or better for him and honestly it’s breaking my heart …I don’t know if this will get better or things will change …if so how long for …the worse thing is if he can’t get weed he gets his hight from drinking as well …. Don’t know what to or how to help react or navigate a full time job ,and other members of the family.
Sorry for such a long post
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Somebody supporting another with alcohol addiction
I’m so sorry you’re going through this Kat, it sounds absolutely awful. 🙁
For mums especially there’s so much pressure to keep everything together in a family and ensure everyone is having a nice time, especially around Christmas.
I’ll leave it to others to give specific advice as your situation is quite different from mine, but I just wanted to say it’s a very reassuring sign that your son is asking for help. Wanting to get better is a huge and important step, so well done to you both for getting to that point - it sounds like you’re doing a fantastic job in supporting him through this.
For mums especially there’s so much pressure to keep everything together in a family and ensure everyone is having a nice time, especially around Christmas.
I’ll leave it to others to give specific advice as your situation is quite different from mine, but I just wanted to say it’s a very reassuring sign that your son is asking for help. Wanting to get better is a huge and important step, so well done to you both for getting to that point - it sounds like you’re doing a fantastic job in supporting him through this.
Somebody supporting another with alcohol and cannabis addictions
Thank you ,just being able to vent and talk to people on here is helping ,although not to make it about myself as I know this is my sons journey and I will do everything I can (along with the rest of my family ) to support him and help him in every way.
It’s nice to hear your kind words so thank you
It’s nice to hear your kind words so thank you